Being: The world waits for it… Get more from life with being present...

Part of what nudged me to materialize this post, was my intuition to look more closely at myself and my current modus operandi, due to observations in familial relationships around me. The question I posed myself began the inquiry and I pose it at large, now…

Are we truly open to experiencing our children as they really are, or are we experiencing what we think our children are, funneled through our own thought-system that remains unexplored and through our own conveniences and self-identities? I have been observing parent and children dynamics around me recently and this has invited me to revisit this examination of what my relationship with my children is. The very dynamic of the parental/child societal script sort of makes my skin crawl, which certainly hasn’t deterred me from participating in it via my programming. I don’t feel anyone

decide for another, what is best for them. We can only decide what is best for ourselves. Don’t get me wrong. I believe wholeheartedly in sharing fully our experiences, the lessons we feel we learned and the way it has influenced our own choices; what has worked and what doesn’t. This requires a level of deep person honesty with oneself. A level of integrity I rarely see. What substitutes for this integrity is opinion, regurgitation of old ideas and models and very little present moment interaction is really available.

It’s funny how the pendulum swings~ and with it, the whole of life…

This inquest at some point begs our attention and we find that living according to the ‘norm’ is out of our integrity. We try just change as little as we can at first, so as to not rock-the-boat; maintain a semblance of status quo…. This rarely is satisfactory for long. Often, that dissatisfaction pushes us to chuck the baby with the bath water and our equilibrium with it. This actually turns out to be a ‘good’ thing. It facilitates us to establish our new base of operation, allowing us to swing to the opposite end of the spectrum and back an forth...

When awareness dawns; we first discover that we have been willing pawns for a system of operation that not only do we no longer agree with, but can’t remember when we did agree at least not wholeheartedly. Unconscious willingness doesn’t excuse us from the accountability inherent in having life at all. With the assignment of life, each of us has a unique role, essential to the whole. Feeling desperate, lonely and afraid are not excuses for not knowing ourselves, but rather the very catalyst built within the system of human existence to assist us to the highest level of knowing by way of direct contact with our own thoughts, feeling, emotions and interpretation in connection with the world at large. It is the examination of our interpretations and the evaluation of their usefulness to the whole that exponentially lifts us to greater awareness; awareness that is known by its universality, its rightness to the dignity of all.

Having direct contact with the full range, feeling the exposure and living, mistaking and growing all the while, encourages the development of trust in ourselves and therefore our children. And as we give ourselves over to copious trust, the swing begins to balance out and we find ourselves present with what is; right here, right now. We are at ground zero~ where everything is possible. Dare we live each day in such raw exposure?

When I say we, of course, as with this entire post, I mean I. Dare I live exposed and visible and willing to be fully present, each moment? It is certainly my desire. And as of late I have felt a reasonable sense of fruition within this presence. Being inside the mind of one of my boys; seeing some project or movie through his eyes/perception or experiencing what he is telling me as if I’ve never heard of the concept before. Brilliant living this is! Fresh and alive!

This last little while, I have noticed an increased presence of mind to be deliberate about trying to see through the eyes of the child (as well as anyone) I am spending time with ~ just leave my mind and enter theirs. (after all, minds are joined and the one I am with, is, on the level of perception, a projection of my mind). The questioning that always backgrounds these encounters goes as follows: “What is it for?” This is the constant inquest of my life and relational involvement with my mentor/children. “What is the meaning of what I behold? What purpose does it serve? Is it creative by nature of it being extended from love? Or is it attack on love’s presence by way of being a projection from fear?” The form of interactions matter not and I feel little desire to monitor that aspect as I realize not only the futility in such an exercise (after all the script is written) but also, I am disinterested in the choices that my fear orientation makes when it thinks it knows what I want or need. Love knows and love sees the big picture, for everyone involved. Of course, fear raises it head in the form of mild frustration, seeming boredom, worry, or quilt, and I wouldn’t want to interfere. How else would I know where I value the valueless and must forgive it? ~ummm, yummy gratitude~ I have been delighted to joyously share in a new innocent perspective of discovery and exploration.